Saddened today
Nash - 10/1/10 at 12:34 AM
With the terrible weather this week and especially today, we popped over to our elderly neighbours with the 4x4 to see if they needed anything at the
Supermarket.
To our dismay Jo (Mrs) died last week.
My wife and I are absolutely devastated for Joe (Mr) (I know we called them Jo & Joe the famous double act 
). He's in his 80's and
although he is a wirery old fox he is a broken man (obviously).
He's selling up and going to live with his daughter in Northumberland.
Sorry to bring the tone down but I needed to vent.
...........Neil
PS Check in on your elderly neighbours it doesn't take a minute and it could make a big difference!
[Edited on 10/1/10 by Nash]
mangogrooveworkshop - 10/1/10 at 12:39 AM
Ben_Copeland - 10/1/10 at 08:11 AM
Oh dear, it's always sad when loving partners are separated by death like that
designer - 10/1/10 at 08:45 AM
All part of life's 'rich tapestry' I'm afraid.
I lost my dad this year, Now I'm stuck in Taunton as dad-in-law had a stroke before Xmas. Now waiting for the inevitable!!
C'est la vie!!!
Danozeman - 10/1/10 at 09:23 AM
Happens to us all in the end.
My Grandad inlaw died a few years ago quite suddenly. My Nanna inlaw hasnt really got over it and has gone a little bit strange. When uv been with
someone for so long u get used to them being there.
My Grans in hospital at the moment as she had a heart attack last week and is very frail.
As said take care of your elderly neighbours you will be in there postition before you know it.
David Jenkins - 10/1/10 at 09:35 AM
Lost my father and step-mother in 2009 - both lived to a good age (90 & 85) but that doesn't make it any easier.
Wife and I are hoping that 2010 will be a better year...
bimbleuk - 10/1/10 at 09:43 AM
My Grandad lost his wife at 92 but still lives on his own. I can tell how miserable he can feel at times and even got close to drinking himself to
very poor health! Just took time and regular visits to get some sort of routine back in his life.
02GF74 - 10/1/10 at 10:23 AM
well my cousin died last week and he was just a but over 1/2 Mrs J's age.
2 months ago the docs said he'd have 6 mths to 2 years but ......
(this sad thread is turning out to be top trumps)
David Jenkins - 10/1/10 at 11:14 AM
quote:
Originally posted by 02GF74
(this sad thread is turning out to be top trumps)
It is a bit... but I think it's empathising rather than one-upmanship.
Coping with death of someone you know/love is tough, and people find that it helps to talk about it. Though it is certainly tougher when the person
concerned is young.
zilspeed - 10/1/10 at 12:12 PM
Ten years my Mother is dead now - 62 she was.
My father died 6 months later - 67.
Not adding to the feeling of glloom here.
It was awfull at the time, but Ill tell you something, you just get on with it. It hasn't all been beer and skittles in that time, but it has
taught us all something of a lesson to just f%%ing get on with it.
I've been spurred into doing a whole load of things since they died.
There will be many many people who know exactly what I'm talking about here.
Confused but excited. - 10/1/10 at 12:21 PM
It's heartbreaking when you lose a relative, be it grand parent, parent, or any other relative that you are close to, but nothing prepares you
for the grief of losing a partner. It is a thousand times worse.
So please, if you know someone that has lost their's, please don't tell them you know how they feel.
Believe me when I say, you don't.
craig1410 - 10/1/10 at 01:47 PM
quote:
Originally posted by Confused but excited.
It's heartbreaking when you lose a relative, be it grand parent, parent, or any other relative that you are close to, but nothing prepares you
for the grief of losing a partner. It is a thousand times worse.
So please, if you know someone that has lost their's, please don't tell them you know how they feel.
Believe me when I say, you don't.
Fortunately I have little experience of this yet but it is something I have given thought to when friends have experienced such losses. I expect the
toughest loss is losing someone you see and interact with and perhaps rely on every day.
Most of us leave home in our late teens or twenties so I suppose the reliance upon parents might start to fade slowly and the reliance upon a partner
will increase. As a father of three it has crossed my mind how I might cope if something happened to my wife and on one hand you might think the fact
that kids are involved would make it much harder but I expect (rightly or wrongly) that this may actually prove to be a source of strength for the
widowed partner and a reason to keep going on.
I expect it must be much harder for older couples who live on their own when one of them dies, especially when they have been together for decades.
I'm sure the one left behind must sometimes feel that they want to die themselves rather than be left alone. At times like this I expect the only
thing which makes life bearable is the support and attention of friends and family - something we should all bear in mind if we find ourselves in a
position to provide this kind of support.
Let's hope that 2010 brings some moments of joy to those left behind in such circumstances.
Craig.
[Edited on 10/1/2010 by craig1410]
Simon - 13/1/10 at 12:58 AM
Blimey, what a depressing thread, which I'm now going to add to.
Lost an aunt on Christmas Day and another on New Years Day. Fortunately my Mother is in Australia at the mo, so had to let her know her sister died
via my brother. She might have been told about the other (her sister in law) by now.
In a weird way I'm fortunate that I have always lived a long way from both parents familyies (mother's are from Liverpool region; mother
moved south in the 60's), so never got that close - though when we meet up, it's like we've never been apart.
And I found out my father now has to have 4 weeks of radiotherapy.
Was thinking what a crap way to end 2009, but 2010 hasn't started too promisingly.
ATB
Simon
Jasper - 13/1/10 at 10:00 AM
Sorry to hear your sad news. Just another big reminder to people, go check on your older neighbours, the wife and I did just that last week.